Diversity, Equality & Other Four-Letter Words I Disdain

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Every time I write a column with political overtones, I swear I won’t do it again. Then, the response is so consistently good that I think, “Gee, maybe I should just become a political commentator.” Then, very quickly, I come back to reality with the honest self-reflection that I just don’t have the chops for it like many of the great political writers I admire such as Thomas Sowell, Michael Medved, or Dave Barry. However, I still have opinions so I do take the opportunity now and then to express them, especially when they relate to parenting. So here we go again, with diversity, equality & other four-letter words I disdain.

Our kids are growing up in a politically correct environment everywhere they go, from school to the work place. They are often indoctrinated in views that school districts adopt such as the zany re-writing of history that California has legislated so that every group gets representation in history classes, regardless of the truth or reality of who did what, when, and where.

During the Presidential Election of 2008, both my boys faced teachers advocating, either directly or via public class mock elections, a particular candidate and/or political party. In the case of the high school case, it was so egregious that I wrote a letter to the local paper and went to see the principal. The principal only saw me after he felt the strong reaction to my Letter to the Editor and the hue and cry that followed.

He did not defend that teacher’s actions, thankfully, and promised to send out a memo to all teachers to refrain from any political advocacy.

Now, that same son is hearing similar agendas in his first year at college. It’s so pernicious that it is simply inescapable. I believe it adds to a parent’s burden, or challenge, in raising children because now we have to be sure the values we believe in are understood by our children and we have to monitor what they read, see, or watch at school. How ironic.

Obviously, the same applies to all the forms of music and mass, mainstream entertainment. There are the occasional movies like “Zero Dark Thirty,” that make you proud to be an American, but then there are the usual political diatribes that pass for objectivity that too often come out from la-la land like the recent Matt Damon movie against fracking. The list of Hollywood’s output with a blatant left-leaning agenda overwhelms the occasional honest film. Oliver Stone’s entire career has largely been about de-constructing the truth of American history with the notable exception being his terrific post-911 film.

So, let’s return to the two words that inspired this column. The two words at the top of my political-correctness list that I perhaps dislike the most. Frankly, the list is endless, as the politically correct police have sheared so many words of their meaning. Rape is a heinous crime, but in many circles it is applied when a woman regrets having sex after the fact, such as in a college environment when a young woman gets drunk and/or high and finds herself the next morning in bed with a young man she regrets having slept with.

Be CLEAR that I am not advocating that real rape – when a woman is involuntarily attacked or doped and sexually assaulted – isn’t a heinous crime. But, regret “after the fact” is not rape.

The same conscription of terminology happened to sexual harassment. It used to mean when a (largely) male boss demanded sexual favors from a (largely) woman subordinate in exchange for a raise, a promotion, or even continued employment. Now, a Victoria’s Secret calendar placed in a man’s own workspace is grounds for the use of the term, sexual harassment, and potential discipline at the hands of HR.

So, let’s talk about diversity then. A definition I found online is: the condition of having or being composed of differing elements: variety. Yeah, that’s what it’s always meant to me. Now, the definition also contains: the inclusion of different types of people (as people of different races or cultures) in a group or organization. I wonder when THAT was added?

Every left-leaning aka Democratic politician talks about diversity as if it were a new concept in America. Hello? America was built on diversity. Why is it now a contemporary value in politics and at school? When did it become something that is legislated and part of changing our history books in school? Why has diversity not included diversity of thought on our campuses? Ugh, I can’t stand hearing that word anymore.

Another word that used to be a hallmark of America and our history was equality. It’s all over our founding documents. But, it now seems to mean something more like Robin Hood – take from the rich and give to the poor. Our President made much of his second campaign about this new idea of equality. And, he was re-elected on the promise of redistribution of wealth.

Again, I say HELLO? Since when is the American ideal that we’re all equal, regardless of what we do to earn it? “Earn” is like a bad word today, isn’t it? Phil Mickelson gets castigated for publicly declaring he may want to leave California because he’d like to keep more than 37% of his income? Why can he not declare that opinion and have the free choice of where to live when Hollywood celebrities regularly and vocally support their cause and/or candidate of choice?

Am I over-reacting?

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  • David Weber

    Articulate complaints, heartfelt to boot. Any solutions to propose?  Your comments are aimed at conceptually taming too wide a swath of life in the  United States.  What you’ve written, however sincere, is a general condemnation of a certain perspective on culture, politics and society, plus a summary of selected conditions or operations that either indicate the prominence of that perspective, or  the breadth of its functional impact on a variety of facets of that society, or both.  In other words, what you have here is a sincere, well-intentioned, articulate rant … and I’m personally no longer consuming rants from any pole without calling them out as such.

    A more effective approach is to address one issue at a time, so that you’re observing problems and coupling them with suggestions for solutions.  What I’m reading above is essentially ventilation.  Yes, there is much to be said for ventilation, but we’re at a point in our social and political history when plenty of ventilation has long been issued for public consumption.  

    My personal preference is to bridge from ventilation to solutions to consider.  How, for example, would you suggest dealing effectively with limiting or ending what have observed to be political indoctrination in classrooms?

    All that said, the phrase “conscription of terminology” is outstanding!  Well done!

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      I appreciate your feedback, as always, Professor. Yes, this was a venting post. I really don’t have any ideas of how to solve this ongoing problem…do you?

    • Guest

      FIRE (Freedom and Individual Rights in Education) is one fine solution.  Another is to bring some serious savagery (wildness) into the the tame totalitarian tyranny that is the PC, the PoMo, the Multi-Culti, and the Gender Bigot world.  General condemnations of certain widely shared but utterly pigheaded, totalitarian, and tyrannical thinking processes are totally appropriate….in democracies which depend on genuine shared discourse to survive and to thrive. 

      I didn’t hear political rants here.  I heard process rants.  Big difference.

      I also noticed that Mr. Salan SHOWED us all how to effectively handle political indoctrination in both the class room and in the lame stream PC press.  Parent’s have power.  When parents permit totalitarian bullies to turn publicly funded schools into Animal Farm asylums, the PC Pigs win.

  • http://daniel-alexander-book.blogspot.com/ Daniel Alexander

    Well done Bruce.
    Good on you for speaking up against these things.
    Personally, I feel, the more and more we follow this path of political correctness, the further and further we all drift apart.
    There was a guy on radio the other day expressing his honest feelings, which weren’t PC, and he was slated for it.
    The reality is many people feel exactly the same, but we can never get those feelings out and grow.
    I think that’s what we lose out on, by trying to be too PC: we can’t grow and mend relationships.
    I’m sorry if anyone doesn’t understand my comment.
    This is a really difficult subject to talk about in a few sentences.
    That’s my bad 🙂

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Your comment is fully clear, Daniel and I’m glad we agree. Political Correctness has gone WAY TOO FAR!

  • http://twitter.com/gingerconsult Jen Olney

    Bruce, we are raising a generation that is not being given the ability to have their own thoughts, rather, they are being subjected to agenda and correctness that is doing more harm than good. I think we need to as parents, stand up when we see PC run amuck and make sure our kids have a good value system from us not the government.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @GingerConsult:twitter I couldn’t agree more! Very eager and honored to be your #BeALeader guest Thursday!

      • http://twitter.com/gingerconsult Jen Olney

         Hey Bruce! Very excited about your appearance on #bealeader this Thursday night. Alwaya party and great conversation when you are involved. Cheers.

  • http://www.drmichellemazur.com/ Michelle_Mazur

    Bruce, I am not understanding the rape comment. I’ve never heard a woman say she was raped when she merely regretted having consensual sex with a man. Where does this come from? Do you have evidence for this usage of the word? 

    Also, I find it interesting that a college professor has to be careful of advocating a certain political point of view as it might disagree with your point of view. Isn’t that having to be politically correct? Developing critical thinking skills is key here. We shouldn’t censor someone’s POV because it doesn’t align with our own. We should teach children and college aged adults how to think. Instead of blindly adhering to what their parents believe or what their teachers espouse. 

    • http://twitter.com/MelissaOnline Melissa Stewart

       Michelle an opinion is to be applauded – forcing your agenda is not. That’s what I’ve discovered many teachers and professors are doing. If you don’t agree a form of “bullying” or even being failed in the class happens (I know actual people that this has actually, firsthand happened to). That’s when it becomes a problem.

      And when it comes to grade school, both sides should be presented and let the children decide – not the teacher’s agenda on impressionable youth. They did that in Germany not so many years ago, it didn’t work out well.

      • http://www.drmichellemazur.com/ Michelle_Mazur

        Where is the fine line between stating your opinion and forcing an agenda? If I teacher says I’m going to vote for X – that maybe seen as forcing an agenda by some and by others they are stating an opinion. I do agree a student should not be graded on whether you agree or disagree with their opinion but by the quality of his/her argument. Was the student failed for their opinion or because their argument was lacking? I don’t know but it’s a valid question to ask. 
        Goodwin was right – it didn’t take this conversation very long until Nazi Germany was brought up. Really, that is the problem with discourse in this country. It’s not based on good argumentation, critical thinking, but the fear that we are becoming Nazis.  

        • http://twitter.com/MelissaOnline Melissa Stewart

          An interesting argument. What facts and points in history are okay to reference? I was agreeing with you for the most part but see we have very different points of view. Something we are blessed with expressing in our wonderful country.

          As for the students that were bullied, harassed, or given less than glowing grades (these included students who were right, left, and varying degrees on in between) – it was not the quality of their work or arguments. You can Google news and find many such documented cases.

          I never said we were becoming Nazis, I referenced a fact in history. Since I never want to be close minded, I reexamined “critical thinking” to make sure we were on the same page  http://www.criticalthinking.org/pages/defining-critical-thinking/766 and http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Critical_thinking – seems facts are part of the process.

          • http://www.drmichellemazur.com/ Michelle_Mazur

            After teaching college for 12 years, I’ve heard the “you gave me a bad grade because you didn’t agree with me” more times than I like to admit (about a myriad of subjects sometimes not even remotely controversial). Then I sit down with the student, walk them through the assignment and how they didn’t meet the requirements. I’m not saying that there are not incidence where people are bullied for their beliefs, but I’ve seen that used as an excuse too. 

            After seeing so many Internet memes about how Obama signed bills surrounded by children and Hitler surrounded himself with children therefore my the transitive property of crazy Obama is just like Hitler. I’m over the argument that the US is becoming Nazi Germany. If the indoctrination in schools is happening now just like it did in Nazi Germany, fine bring it up. The situations are not the same. We don’t have state indoctrination of students – we have some bad teachers though who aren’t objective.

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            We may disagree about this @Michelle_Mazur but we sure agree about the ease with which BAD comparisons are being made to invalidate an opposing view. Rather than engage in a meaningful dialogue, so many on the left simply call those on the right racist, homophobic, islamophobic, sexist, etc! And, the right has their name-calling as well…

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            TY @MelissaOnline:twitter – I expected some blowback on this one!

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @Michelle_Mazur:twitter – Michelle, I have read in many places about incidents on college campuses where women have called “Rape” after having drunken sex – without any force. As for teaching critical thinking, MANY college professors have made it clear to students that ONE point-of-view was what would get them the right grade.In a class on English, should a professor introduce politics? In ANY science or math course, does it belong? Perhaps, Political Science but then ONLY if it’s honestly balanced.I remember debating with my former Rabbi that he far-too-often represented the far left view of things from the pulpit and suggested that he bring a counter-voice to the discussion. He said that he would represent that counter-voice. Imagine how honest that is? THAT is what I understand is mostly occurring on many campuses – obviously not everywhere or with every professor.And, from my own close friend, a professor of communications who is VERY BALANCED and completely fair, he’s told me that critical thinking is most definitely at a low point among college students. I don’t think it’s taught well or much!

      • http://www.drmichellemazur.com/ Michelle_Mazur

        The rape issue is sticky, and I find it best not go there unless you were in the room. It’s always a he said, she said argument. 

        I think with science and math – no politics. In political science, it’s unavoidable – you can’t teach conservatism  socialism  communism without talking about the policies and politics behind it. Liternature has tons of political themes.

        When I taught argumentation and debate, I’d make my students argue opposite of their beliefs. I loved doing that as they had to learn the other sides argument and advocate for it even if they didn’t believe in it. There’s a class where it is hard to escape political topics – fiscal policy, euthanasia, gun control, legalization of pot (but never abortion). 

        The problem is that teachers just teach facts. If they are not allowed to have any opinions whatsoever, they can’t engage their student in debate which teaches critical thinking. 

        I do agree that it is wrong if an argument is judged my whether or not your personally agree with it. (As a student, I lost many a debate round because the judge didn’t personally agree with my argument…heck sometimes I didn’t personally agree with my argument).

        • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

          I agree that the rape issue is stick @Mchelle_Mazur:twitter but so many men have been ruined by the simple charge! Just look at that lacrosse team and what happened! Horrific and all a lie!

        • Guest

          “The rape issue is sticky, and I find it best not go there unless you were in the room. It’s always a he said, she said argument.”
          ‘He said, she said’ is probably the most important reason to go there, given the ease with which women can cry rape under the cover of rape shield laws.  Another good reason is that big feminist ‘rape culture’ lie which scapegoats all men as ‘violent’ sexual monsters and all women as helpless little non-vice-nt victim saints.  This mostly non-violent sex crime needs to made a LOT less sticky and far more reasoned.

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            I stick by what I said but fully acknowledge that the rape issue IS sticky…

          • Guest

            Yes, and it will stay sticky unless we dare to demystify the topic biologically/socially, demolish all the PC nonsense about it, and demand fair play in terms of justice.  Moxon got started in The Woman Racket.  Hoff Sommers did some great work on ‘rape culture’ and Trayce Hansen’s The Politics of Rape: Debunking the Feminist Myth nails the Vagina MONOlogue fail about rape.  

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            Wow, you’re really having a go with the comments – Love it when people get passionate. Would REALLY love to hear from “the other side” – but again, they may just call me/us names rather than engage in a real discourse…

          • Tracheal

            They’d shoot you if they could.  However since guns aren’t PC in SB, much less gun murder, they’ll shoot you by ignoring you.  No worries though.  You’ve got the bully pulpit.  You can be sure they are listening closely to everything you say because you are popping their bubble big time.  Can’t you just hear the air hissing away?  As others see that you haven’t been shot, they’ll join you…and then there will just be too many people to shoot or to silence.  

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            Thanks for the early morning smile @Tracheal:disqus – Hope you can join us at #DadChat tonight?

  • http://twitter.com/MelissaOnline Melissa Stewart

    Another great post Bruce. It’s sure to bring out lots of varying opinions. You’re a brave man 🙂

    • Guest

      Brave indeed.  Much needed too.  The loosey-goosey totalitarian goons on the Left need just as much ‘love’ as do the tighty-fighty fascists on the Right.

      • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

        Well “Guest,” I’d really like you to expand on the “tighty-fighty fascists” since the only group that seems to want to control our lives and money is the other one!?

        • Guest

          There were only 15 people at the Riveria when Inside Job was shown.  Guess you weren’t one of those.  Republicon “Free Market” socialism directly to that tiny elite that runs the racket…that is the ‘masters of the world’s biggest and most dangerous Madoff game’, is beyond shocking.  Democrats who are obviously very dangerous crooks themselves, have got to be drooling as Republicons do the fooling.

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            What is “Inside Job?”

          • Guest

            An Academy Award winning documentary on the 2008 financial collapse.

  • http://twitter.com/lisa_e_hall Lisa E. Hall

    Are you 

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Well Diversity MAY be in the eye of the beholder @Lise_e_hall:twitter – not trying to be funny. California now requires history books to FORCEABLY put in historical figures who were LSGBDA or whatever that acronym is for every variety of sexual orientation. I’m FINE if they were there and I’m fine being sure proper representation of meaningful contributions to history are included. I’m NOT fine with it being forced upon us. 

      As for what school kids know, the ignorance is WAY BEYOND just not knowing an Arab from a Muslim…it’s astonishing how dumb so many of OUR kids are thanks to the generic, dumbing down of education AND the teaching to tests that you mention!

    • Guest

      “However, rest assured that diversity training is desperately needed.”-
      Yes, but diversity indoctrination needs to go.  In addition, white males need to be included in diversity training because thanks to feminist gender bigotry white males are the mercilessly scapegoated as predatory monsters.

  • http://twitter.com/profkrg Kenna Griffin

    Oh, Daddy’O. I will not take this walk with you. Good luck, though!

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      No worries @Profkrg:twitter – my good friend Professor Weber takes it with me often and chastises me regularly for generalizing on this stuff!

    • Guest

      Why not Girly’Go?  

      • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

        The professor – “Guest” – is a dear/good friend though we do disagree on some things politically – she always calls me, “Daddy-O” and I love it. We respectfully debate on occasion as we did here: http://www.brucesallan.com/2012/11/20/freedom-thought-debate-journalism/

        • Guest

          Just curious.  No problem with Daddy’O.  Hope she doesn’t get offended by Girly’Go given that she’s your ‘little girl’ and given that she chose to go too.

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  • Barbara

    This is the BEST one you’ve done yet! I do wish the world could read it.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Thank you so very much @ec6c02701caad1d9d2c4af484b2810da:disqus 

  • Arlee Bird

    You’re not overreacting at all. You’re totally correct.  Code words and doublespeak abound in our society.  Certain agenda driven groups cry out for freedom of speech unless you’re saying something they don’t like–that’s hate speech and cannot be said.  Today we’re dealing with pretzel logic with unsalted fat-free pretzels because they’re bad for you. 

    Good post!

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      We certainly agree, Arlee – thx for commenting! 

  • http://twitter.com/FarFromCamelot Beth

    Thank you for speaking the truth!  Another word I hate…tolerance.  It only seems to apply to a certain few, not to all.  At age 33, I fall into the propaganda-trained crowd, but luckily I had parents that ignored the Progressive revolution of the 60’s…which happens to be doublespeak for “regression”!   

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      OMG Beth aka @FarFromCamelot:twitter how could I leave off “Tolerance!” It absolutely belongs up there given its usually used to be INtolerance! 

  • Guest

    I loved your willingness to tackle the Third Rail topics…that is rape and sexual harassment.  Now we need to hear more about stupid slogans like ‘rape is a crime of power not sex’, or ‘no means no’ or ‘1-4′ college girls…’, our ‘don’t blame the victim’ for daring to suggest that un-dressing in public or getting falling down drunk in public is very risky/irresponsible behavior, or sexual ‘violence’ as a misnomer for what is predominantly a non-violent sex crime.  I’m also fascinated by the fact that although women in SB can cockily walk around town doing deviant exhibitionism (it’s called SlutWalking or sexual ’empowerment’ and is their favorite kind of sexual harassment) with perfect the impunity, a man can go down for having a sexy catalog showing the very same thing on his desk.  It truly is The Brave New World.  I’m sure the ‘diseased cows’ (thanks Daily Nexus) over in UCSB’s Feminist Studies department are probably having serious indigestion right about now though…thanks to your PIC courage.  

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      LOVE your passion…let’s get some of those so-called “Gender Studies” students and professors to weigh in…but I suspect they’ll just call me names like sexist because that is usually the ONLY argument they have!

      • Guest

        The silence is deafening so far.  Stay on offense (pun intended).  Looks like plenty of people (including me) have your back here.  

        • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

          Thx…I think truly a lot of people have gotten lazy about commenting…and the Gender Studies people are really busy doing important studies!

          • Guest

            It’s dangerous PIC territory which will take time to reclaim. Maybe the Feminist Studies girls are planning a course change toward truthful, open, and objective scholarship. It’s their only hope. That incredible turnaround from wicked witchcraft to civilized science could be what’s keeping em so preoccupied. But somehow I doubt it! You?

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            I need to know who you are @0003e358a89867db100bf246375feacf:disqus to really feel comfortable engaging in a dialogue. Obviously, my name is ON this column and I think it’s only fair that those who comment are transparent too. Don’t you?

    • R_k_lobley

       Well, isn’t this just wearisome.

      I’m concerned you seem to resent women’s choosing what to wear; and that this manifests itself in calling them names. If SlutWalks (basically a more third-wavey version of Take Back The Night, because apparently women still can’t leave the house without in some way being blamed for anything that happens to them) are so “deviant” and “exhibitionist”, surely you sould have the same problem with “sexy catalogues”? (Additional: FFS dude, the internet is full of real porn. Additional the second: stop masturbating at work.)

      • Guest

        I resent women using sex inappropriately as a weapon of war, to rape assets from men, and for double-bind blaming men for instinct-driven ogling in response to blatant female public exhibitionism. I also detest Take Back The Night, SlutWalks, and the latest One Billions (Bigots) Rising rackets because feminist ‘enlightenment’ is totalitarian tyranny. That said, women can CHOOSE to strut down the street in their birthday suits for all I care as long as they are willing to be responsible for their abuse of their sexual power…and as long as men can happily abuse their status power in an equitable manner without silly howls of insincere outrage from the naked strutters

        That said, the whole ’empowered’ feminist C–T culture is one of crude, crass, and vulgar porn. It resembles all carnival-like inflationary cultures…in that ‘hot, fast and loose’ are the (feminine) guiding values….just as in the Weimar Republic. Given time though there’s always a correction back to ‘cold, slow, and tight’ deflationary (masculine) guiding values. Sadly over-correction (read Hitler) is also commom. Playing with fire (inflationary female fantasies) is always terribly dangerous.

        Don’t believe me about the C–T culture? Go read Girls on the Edge by the Al Gore of the Gender War. We are getting perilously close to the Weimar Republic tragedy of ‘a prostitute in every family’ and we haven’t even gotten to the hyper-inflationary phase yet.

      • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

        Okay you two – let’s be nice! @135de8eabb9c72543c921b7384a3f43b:disqus @0003e358a89867db100bf246375feacf:disqus

  • Guest

    For Mr Salan, his sons, for the various professors here and for freedom loving people everywhere: http://www.avoiceformen.com/miscellaneous/contrasting-modern-and-post-modern-discourse/

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  • http://www.patrickkphillips.com/ Patrick

    I have some of the same frustrations, but at the same time, you and I are white guys, so it’s easy for us to be frustrated: women and blacks didn’t have the breaks we had from day one, and though there are certainly more opportunities for them now, we had it “our” way for a long, long time.

    Here’s a thought on the “diversity of thought” argument on campus: it sounds, at least in your case, as if there IS a diversity of thought happening, in that your child is hearing a point of view different from your own. When does that become a problem for a college-age student, who is in most cases by legal definition able to vote for himself?
    How much does a teacher have to say that sounds like advocating a political point of view before it becomes necessary for the parent to step in and “correct” what the teacher says? And if a child is brought up with a certain set of values, why can’t the child be able to be exposed to other points of view without it shattering their values?

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @PatricksPlace:twitter – I’m afraid I disagree. That old saw argument that we can’t disagree because we’re white men is just that – an old argument. My son is LUCKY that he was taught by ME to think for himself. Too many kids at these colleges don’t have a clue and can be terribly led by their professors and the general thinking that pervades many campuses…not all, but many. And, as a good professor friend has made abundantly clear to me, it’s less the professors that promote an agenda than the administrations of many colleges. 

      • http://www.patrickkphillips.com/ Patrick

        I’m not saying that we can’t disagree because we’re white men; I’m merely saying that we might see things differently if we were of a different ethnic group or gender (or both). 

        Regarding your son being able to think for himself, I think you’ve done what every parent is SUPPOSED to do. 

        No parent can control what your child sees, reads or hears for his entire life; no parent SHOULD, for that matter. If a parent has communicated those values and explained why they’re important for the next generation (rather than the tired old, “believe this way because I say so and that’s how it’s always been”) the child should grow into an adult that doesn’t need a parent to monitor everything for him. 

        Exposure to different points of view is almost ALWAYS a good thing, because it makes us rethink and re-evaluate our own. If our position is so correct, not only will it survive such an examination, but it should be that much stronger after one.

        • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

          Thx for that clarification @PatricksPlace:twitter – I’m not surprised we’re more closely aligned than I mistook from your first comment!

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