Men vs. Women – Cleaning

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Men and Cleaning

Perhaps one of the most enjoyable aspects of doing this series of columns is ruffling feathers and reflecting – often with humor – on my own life and wife. Since my wife rarely reads my columns, I can write whatever I want with relative impunity. Of course, I’m ALWAYS writing the exact truth. It’s never slanted or biased from my male point-of-view. I’m the objective journalist with this series.

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Funny housework image

My usual caveat to these columns is that my declarations, generalizations, and stereotypes are simply that…there are always exceptions but they are generalizations for a reason. The reason is that they are prevalent.

I’ve gone through my own journey regarding cleaning, neatness, personal body care, and the like. Why it’s changed over the years is a mystery.

A distinct memory of my messier times took place when I went to Antioch College in Yellow Springs, Ohio in the summer of 1971. Wow, those were different times for sure. It was the height of the hippy movement, Vietnam was still in full gear, and free sex was all the rage though it was that summer that I had my first experience with any sex. That is another story.

Men and Cleaning

The housing I was offered was in the form of sharing a large old home right on campus. I had my own room. I arrived for my summer session and it was hot. I immediately wanted to change and took off whatever shirt I was wearing and draped it over the chair by my desk. Over the subsequent weeks, I draped other clothes on that chair. I didn’t see THAT shirt again until I packed up to leave at the end of the summer.

Then I went through an anal phase of organizing and relative concern for cleanliness. That lasted many years until I became a dad and, got even worse, when I became a full-time single dad. My priorities shifted to other things that seemed more pressing to me – and pressing the sheets just wasn’t one of those things. Surviving the dark days of divorce was hard enough without worrying about doing the vacuuming. Just providing the basics for my traumatized young boys was more important than washing the dishes.

Vintage Mom and Daughter with funny caption

I met my second wife during that phase. When she moved into our downsized apartment, the garage was packed wall-to-wall with stuff. My car was parked outside. Walking through the garage was impossible. She almost walked out that day. I wouldn’t have blamed her.

Now, years later, I am a bit more cleanly, organized, and put together. Well, my wife puts together my wardrobe so maybe I’m not so put together. She “takes care of the house,” and I take care of the money. It’s a simple division of labor and works, some of the time.

Where is my stuff

I’ll now share my usual list of how men and women approach things – regarding cleaning – in this edition of the Men vs. Women series:

~~ Men think cleaning the house is easy. A quick vacuum. A leaf blower for dust. Back to the game!

~~ Women think cleaning the house is NEVER done. Many women clean the house before the housekeeper arrives AND clean it again after he/she leaves. That is assuming there is a “housekeeper.”

Women's wishes

                                      Such a stereotype!

~~ Speaking of housekeepers, most men think any housekeeper that is cheap is perfect.

~~ For women, housekeepers are like clothes and bling – the more you spend the better you look, the better the job of cleaning the house!

~~ Men don’t understand two things: irons and dry-cleaning. Why do you need either?

~~ Women spend half their day at the (shoe) store and the other half at the dry-cleaners.

women and cleaning~~ Men know where everything is in their extremely orderly mess. That is, until their woman organizes it all and puts everything where “it belongs.”

~~ Women really like shoeboxes. Men like them too, to put junk in.

~~ Men know that a car is a precious thing and take great pride and care in keeping it in tip-top shape, inside and out. Hand-washing a car is a sign of true devotion.

~~ Women know the names of every worker at their car wash.

Men and Women - cartoon

~~ Men believe their kid’s rooms are their kid’s bat-cave. Let it be. It’s their space. Lighten up.

~~ Mom believes their kid’s rooms are a reflection on themselves and IF a friend comes over and see that their kid’s bed isn’t made, mom will be mortified.

~~ Speaking of “making beds,” men don’t understand that concept. Why does a bed need to be “made?” Heck, aren’t we just going to get back into it again tonight?

~~ Not only do women believe beds are sacred alters of order, but it is absolutely necessary to clutter the bed with an endless number of pillows.

I can see that there will have to be a Part Two to this edition of Men vs. Women!

Dad teaching how to clean

 

  • http://upliftingfamilies.com/ Christy Garrett

    I love this post. I love your graphic about the man ordering the kids to do the house work. That is pretty true in our house but dad usually isn’t drinking a beer. 🙂

  • Shailesh Jangra

    Nice post to read. Really there is vast difference between working attitude and way. I love claning but it sucks me if takes too long time.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      You love cleaning @shailesh_jangra:disqus? You’re a better man than me!

      • Shailesh Jangra

        Hahahaha…Thanks @brucesallan:disqus for this line. 🙂 But Men will be men…:)

  • A Single Dad

    I must confess I started as you have described but have ‘softened’ a little as time has worn on me! Some of the observations remain spot on – none of us make beds and as for ironing – only when absolutely necessary which equals business shirts. Even then on cold days I’m tempted just to iron the front…

    Nice post!

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @asingledad:disqus – I love that –> “I’m tempted just to iron the front…”

      • A Single Dad

        I never do though. If I did it I know it would get unbearably hot or some form of exercise would require me to take off my jacket. I remain tempted…

  • David Weber

    I dislike cleaning and have a cleaning lady come in twice a month. Money well spent, as far as I’m concerned! I’m fairly neat, without too much stuff just lying around, but it does accumulate sometimes.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      YOU are as clean as any guy I’ve ever known so I’m assuming you don’t like the chores such as vacuuming and bathroom cleaning?