Just A Guy Who Likes Making More Money

Category: Just A Guy

There was a recent Pew Center study (http://bit.ly/PewCtr) that revealed how much more equal income has become between the genders. In more cases than ever, more women are working and more women are earning higher income than their male counterparts.  While I believe totally in equal pay for equal work, I do question the impact on relationships when the woman is making more than the man.

With each generation becoming more accustomed to gender equality, I feel it will eventually settle into a comfortable reality that men and women will accept.  But, for now and maybe longer, the inherent gender differences may remain and be a problem between couples when the woman is making more than the man.

What do women want from their men and men from their women? I assert that women look for security, first and foremost, in a man while men look for a loving, supportive partner, as well as a good-looking one. Crucify me, but this is the truth. Women also tend to like guys with a sense of humor as much as good looks, while men will date a model with no personality and still brag to their guy friends.

So, I like the fact that in every relationship I’ve had, including my two marriages, I feel more like a man having been the bigger earner.  Call it an ego thing, an immature trait, but it’s the truth of how I feel.  And it’s yet another dirty little secret that most men and women feel, too.

All this said, I support women earning as much as they can and if a woman partner is the higher earner, I want and hope it won’t damage the relationship with their men.  But, it’s harder.  You can say, as I suspect many of you will, “what does he know, he’s just a guy.”

  • SB Independent

    You’ve got to be kidding? Security? Did you actually ask any women about this?

    • http://brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      SB – Yes, (financial) security and most women will acknowledge it is a top factor in their choices of men. Sorry, SB, it’s a fact of life.

      Every heard of Anna Niclole Smith? Do you think she’s an aberration? Every heard or the reverse happening?

      How many rich old women do you see hanging out with young hot studs?

      Sorry SB, life isn’t fair and men and women are different.

      Let me guess that you are under 40, never married, no kids, went to Grad School, and vote largely on the left side of the aisle? Have you EVER read the WSJ or spent any time between the coasts?

      I don’t need to see your comment about my “Do Women Need Blog” blog as I know you’ll be equally dismissive without giving anything to back up your derisiveness.

      Ask women you know? Ask men? What do they each want from a partner?

      I appreciate the comment – we should spar on the air sometime if you’d care to call in to my radio show. Is SB for Santa Barbara?

      Also, I put MY NAME out there with my opinions and take whatever reaction I get – are you doing that with “SB Independent?”

  • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

    SB – Yes, (financial) security and most women will acknowledge it is a top factor in their choices of men. Sorry, SB, it’s a fact of life.Every heard of Anna Niclole Smith? Do you think she’s an aberration? Every heard of the reverse happening?How many rich old women do you see hanging out with young hot studs?Sorry SB, life isn’t fair and men and women are different.Let me guess that you are under 40, never married, no kids, went to Grad School, and vote largely on the left side of the aisle? Have you EVER read the WSJ or spent any time between the coasts?I don’t need to see your comment about my “Do Women Need Blog” blog as I know you’ll be equally dismissive without giving anything to back up your derisiveness.Ask women you know? Ask men? What do they each want from a partner?I appreciate the comment – we should spar on the air sometime if you’d care to call in to my radio show. Is SB for Santa Barbara?Also, I put MY NAME out there with my opinions and take whatever reaction I get – are you doing that with “SB?”