Back in the day – think “The Mary Tyler Moore” show – couples were portrayed in film and television as having separate beds. At the time, even as a child, I thought that peculiar. Now, my view has changed.
My wife and I went out with a recently widowed friend of hers for a post-holiday drink and some poo-poos. She was ready, to a degree, to begin dating and expressed hope to find a monogamous relationship. Ironically, we went out with her on our wedding anniversary, which proved to be an unplanned blessing because it gave us an outlet to express our love, by talking about our relationship. By ourselves, it would have sounded a bit silly.
Let’s face it, Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays that polarizes relationships between men and women, and the expectations are off the chart. We men usually can’t get it right. Women look forward to this day as much as the post-Christmas sales. It used to be simple – chocolates and/or flowers and a sweet card. Now, we’re made to feel that our gifts are reflections of our love and their status (in our hearts). Let’s TAKE THIS ON at #DadChat this Thursday, February 12 at 6:00 p.m. PT/9:00 p.m. ET. Your homework is this column, Why Men Hate Valentine’s Day.
The other day I had a sobering conversation with a 21-year-old woman. We covered a lot of topics, and when I got to my inevitable probing questions about her personal life and asked if she ever wanted to get married, her answer was a quick and resounding, “No.” The ensuing short exchange sealed the deal for me of how far we’ve come – as far as societal values – in just my own lifetime!
I was jogging around our nearby lake when I saw two women walking. As I passed them, I recognized one as a former friend of mine. Our eyes met but she quickly averted them. I realized who it was by the time I was way past them. It brought back many memories of what I call The Dark Days of (My) Divorce.
Relationship Landmines is the topic for this week’s #DadChat on Thursday, December 3rd from 6:00 – 7:00 p.m. PT/9:00 – 10:00 p.m. ET when Jason Weberman and Dr. Jennifer Weberman guest host in my stead. Jennifer and Jason have been regulars members of the #DadChat community and will be sharing what they’ve learned from their successful 10 year relationship – including how to navigate the trigger spots such as money, sex, raising kids, and the rules of a fair fight.