Constructive Criticism: Can Our Kids Handle It? at #DadChat

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Constructive criticism and our kids

One of my columns this week generated a lot of buzz and is worthy of discussion at #DadChat. Can our kids handle criticism – constructive or any form? Your homework for this week’s #DadChat, on Thursday February 21 from 6:00 – 7:00 p.m. PT/9:00 – 10:00 p.m. ET, is to read Constructive Criticism – Are Today’s Millennials too Thin-Skinned to Handle It?

I’m happy to welcome back Gina Schreck as our co-host for this important discussion!

Gina Schreck

Gina is a wife, mother of four and grandma GG to 5 grandkids! She is the president of SocialKNX – – a social media marketing firm – – and is the author of six books, including Marriage Mechanics: A Tune Up for the Highway of Love! 
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  • http://twitter.com/profkrg Kenna Griffin

    This is going to be a great chat. I hope I can make it!

    Kenna

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Please try @profkrg:twitter because you will bring INVALUABLE insight and wisdom!

  • http://daniel-alexander-book.blogspot.com/ Daniel Alexander

    I think the question to ask is why are today’s millennials so thin-skinned?
    How’s this for a reason why.
    I heard on a radio a while ago, that they banned played cricket in some schools in the UK because some of the kids would lose, and they didn’t like that.
    Okay, so let me get this straight, instead of preparing them for life and the inevitable up’s and down’s, they turn children into a bunch of (many words I could use, but I’d rather not).

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Please bring your thoughts Thursday @daniel_dinnie:disqus – remember one word: Coffee! BTW, I agree totally with you…this foolish idea that kids are upset when they lose ONLY hurts them later on!

      • http://daniel-alexander-book.blogspot.com/ Daniel Alexander

        Ya, our society is all about short term wins.
        I’ll have to think about staying up.
        Remember I do have to get up in the morning and at least attempt to do some work…

        • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

          Call in sick? @daniel_dinnie:disqus 

          • http://daniel-alexander-book.blogspot.com/ Daniel Alexander

            I’ll have to call in sick to myself…

          • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

            I’ll give you a excuse note? @daniel_dinnie:disqus 

    • http://bestapplications4u.com/productivity Churchill Madyavanhu

      Well said. That’s the kind of over-protection which makes it impossible to prepare children for real life.

      • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

        Thx @churchillls:disqus – I hope you can join us at #DadChat tomorrow evening!?

  • http://twitter.com/Jumpset_Tweets Audrey Romano

    Of my 3 kids, 1 can handle it the other two can’t. Depends on the kid.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @twitter-955651003:disqus – I hope you’ll join us and share your experiences at #DadChat Thursday, Audrey!?

  • Rodney C. Davis

    I think most kids can handle it, but I don’t think that’s the most important question to ask.  The question is, do you WANT them handling it.  See… some critique we dub as “constructive,” may need to be examined further. Let me say this, even though I know its a bit provocative:  Show me a kid who has to deal with a barrage of “constructive” critique on too regular a basis from the most significant people in their lives.  I’ll show you a kid who will struggle with their self esteem… most often without they themselves or their  parents realizing it.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @rodneycdavis:disqus – I hope you’ll join us Thursday at #DadChat and present your thoughts!

  • http://twitter.com/FoldTime Fold Time

    What about parents always seeing the teacher as the “bad guy?”  Poor Jimmy ALWAYS has teachers who don’t like him?  Come on.  Perhaps we need to partner with the teachers to help our child learn to succeed –not learn to find another scapegoat!   I know our own kids are always angelic, but when the common denominator in all of their conflict is THEM, we need to quit rescuing and start teaching. Okay now you got me riled up….I’ll see you all on DADCHAT tonight! 🙂

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      You bet @twitter-1199394798:disqus – spoke about EXACTLY that on my radio show today: http://www.brucesallan.com/2013/02/21/can-our-kids-handle-criticism/

  • M. Hawks

    Our children need a “safe place to fail” to try new things and then coach them when things go bad. If the team loses the game and the kid is devastated, go over what went wrong. Help kids take responsibility for their own choices and let the natural & logical consequences happen.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Well said, @mhawks:disqus – I hope you’ll be joining us at #DadChat any Thursday evening at 6:00 p.m. PT/9:00 p.m. ET!