Is #DadChat Back? Should It Be? Please VOTE With a Comment!

Category: Social Media Social Good Series

#DadChat 2014

As many of you know, #DadChat and I were “hit” by haters earlier this year. It made me re-evaluate my thoughts about Social Media as a whole and my place in this ever-changing landscape. #DadChat was “my baby” and I loved the good we were doing by discussing topics as tough as Sexual Abuse, Religion, and Race. We also had many lighter topics, often music-related.

Halle Berry and Scarlett Johansson

           Oh wait, this has nothing to do with #DadChat!

The guests and sponsors we had at #DadChat also were wide-ranging from GoPro, Shutterfly, and Samsung (sponsors), to Billy Ray Cyrus, Guy Kawasaki, and Chris Brogan (guests). The community, at one point, reached 5 of the 7 continents and had regulars that participated from as far away as Africa, Singapore, and Australia – truly different time zones!

And, what was also remarkable, but makes perfect sense when you actually analyze it, was that our demographic was equally men and women. So, that made for spirited discussion and both points of view. I loved that.

Guy Kawasaki

                                                        Guy Kawasaki

My approach to life is to speak my mind – and speak the truth. In our politically correct society today, that is often met with incredible hatred when you don’t agree with a particular point of view. The facts are irrelevant once you gain the ire of the haters. That happened to me during and right after one #DadChat, and I was besieged by a level of hate that I would think be reserved for true evil. Words you don’t like? Explanations not addressed? Facts ignored. It didn’t matter!

It was discouraging, to say the least, and I retreated. That was NOT right because by retreating, I let the largely ignorant haters win – and most of them can be anonymous due to Social Media. After a couple months of pouting, I slowly emerged and began writing again and testing the waters with #DadChat.

To be emotionally frank, I was hurt for a variety of reasons after working so hard for 4 ½ years to build up something of value to all people, not just parents. The #DadChat motto is, For anyone who is a parent of was a child, and we indeed had plenty of people who were not parents join us. As #DadChat grew, the topics grew beyond just parenting, especially when we did “music.”

Can #DadChat hit another Hole-in-One?

                                Can #DadChat hit another Hole-in-One?

In 2014, our stats were incredible. See screenshot above for details. Before we stopped at the beginning of 2015, our stats were consistent with 2014 and the participation and “dialogue” were wonderful.

After my self-imposed hiatus, a couple of other chats “took” my time-slot and have done well. They do not compete with our niche and there’s plenty of room for many chats at the same time. I have no problem with them filling “my” time slot on Thursday evenings at 6:00 p.m. PT/9:00 p.m. ET. The democracy of Social Media can be wonderful and that is a great example.


Bringing #DadChat back in the summer, when it’s is a slow period, probably wasn’t the best timing. But, I went ahead with it and some long-time regulars and many new people showed up.

The question, given that our stats and participation are way down from where we were prior to the break, is whether there’s a need/desire/market for #DadChat anymore? That’s where you come in. I want some voting and feedback, please. Should we come back on a regular basis?

It is a lot of work for me. Work I loved before, but work that I don’t want to do again without legitimate interest and support. Please let me know how you feel…

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  • Terryn Middlebrooks

    I wasn’t a parent before the hiatus and loved dad chat! I am now and look forward to it even more.

    • Bruce Sallan

      Thanks @terrynmiddlebrooks:disqus for the positive and encouraging feedback!

  • Hittin’ThePeaPatch

    As a participant in #DadChat and a one time host to your hour of power, I say “LET’S DO THIS!” and shake it off! You know how I was attacked for a statement that had zero to do with what it was turned into about divorce! PC seems more like agree with the masses or else! What is that all about? We have freedom of speech and should never stop what is important to us in order to appease those who not only don’t listen to reason but also don’t offer to appease anyone else.

    Taylor Swift says it best:

    Cause the players gonna play, play, play

    And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate
    Baby I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake
    Shake it off
    Heartbreakers gonna break, break, break
    And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake
    Baby I’m just gonna shake, shake, shake
    Shake it off, Shake it off

    I never miss a beat
    I’m lighting up my feet
    And that’s what they don’t see
    That’s what they don’t see
    I’m dancing on my own

    *Put those dancing shoes on and hit the social media dance floor Bruce!

    • Bruce Sallan

      TYSM @hittinthepeapatch:disqus – So sweet! Now, I’m hoping YOU will show up and help us GET THIS SHOW back on the road!

      • Hittin’ThePeaPatch

        You know it!

  • MimiBakerMN

    I always enjoyed #DadChat, Bruce. It was always a great discussion, no matter the topic, and I always took something away from it. I hope you bring it back and the haters take a leap.

    • Bruce Sallan

      Thanks so much for “voting” @bigguysmama:disqus – I hope when time allows you will join us again. I’m relatively convinced to bring #DadChat back…jury is still out!

  • theratingsjunkie

    This reminds me of a situation I had back in October. I had started this Questions of the Week segment on another site, and after a great first week participation kind of died down in the subsequent two. I asked others if I should keep doing it, was completely surprised by the overwhelming amount of support, and it grew into a weekly ritual to the point of where users would often ask if I posted them or if they simply missed it.

    Point is, even though I’m not a member of #dadchat I think that you should keep on doing it. We all have people who hate our little segments, myself included. I hope you continue it since you seem to definately have an audience and more importantly, you seem to enjoy it yourself.

    • Bruce Sallan

      TYVM @disqus_wP7idifstr:disqus – when the HATERS were going after me, I felt very alone – now I’m feeling very supported!

  • Jesse Lyn Stoner

    I’m really sorry that happened, Bruce. I have not participated in #DadChat before but I hear it’s great. If you bring it back, please share the day and time, and I’ll do my best to join. You’re doing good work, and I’d like to support you.

    • Bruce Sallan

      @jesselynstoner:disqus – I’d love you to join us, Jesse – #DadChat is Thursdays at 6:00 pm PT/7:00 pm MT/9:00 pm ET. This week we’re discussing #MONEY!

      • Jesse Lyn Stoner

        It’s in my calendar (assuming my flight lands on time). Looking forward to joining you.

  • Mei

    Yes! Pls 🙂 This year I’ve a lot more meetings than last year, but will drop by whenever I can!

    This year, I’ve also got ‘lazy’ in my social media – I no longer schedule tweets and most times, I interact less. For past 2 years, I interacted much but don’t see much relation to my blog traffic and keeping a blog is very tough this year for me. At the end of the day, I decided to just do what I enjoy and feel that if something is an ‘assignment’ from God, I will do my best but other than that, I don’t worry too much!

    • Bruce Sallan

      @disqus_mAYzV8PM6A:disqus – whenever you can join us Mei, it would be a pleasure! I, too, retreated from my activity and am only now coming back, hopefully to a better blend of online and real life activity (now that I’m living in activity-heaven – Park City, Utah)…

  • Nisha Varghese

    yes please

    • Bruce Sallan

      TY @nisha_varghese:disqus

  • BarbaraDuke

    Let’s block the haters and don’t let them bring you down.I say “Yes”, lets get it going again. You know, you have a great thing going here. I know you want to do the “Boomer” thing. Boomers are Dad’s too. They may have a different set of problems, but there are a lot of Dads. And there are “Boomer-Mom” I am starting a new blog called “” Maybe the Moms and Dads can chat. What do you say?

    • Bruce Sallan

      @BarbaraDuke:disqus – let’s do something RADICAL, Barbara and TALK (on the phone)?!

  • David Weber

    Bring it back…what the heck.