What’s on YOUR Mind?

Category: Weekly Columns

Cartoon about what we are thinking

Needless to say, my title is a shameless pitch for comments but, of course, I’m going to share what’s on my mind first. You’re welcome to add anything on yours, please. It’s now two weeks since The Boston Explosion aka The Boston Bombings and I think we’re getting over the initial shock. I am still reeling from the details that my son shared about what happened to him that morning, which I’ll share in a moment.

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I like to vary my columns and every now and then just share random thoughts. Plus we all like lists and after doing 25 such lists for 12Most.com, I’ve gotten into the habit of writing in lists, at times. I tend to be arbitrary in the number on any list, much as I do in the Men vs. Women blog series, so herewith some things on my mind right now:

~~ My son texted me the Monday of The Boston Bombings saying he was okay. It was the first I’d heard of it. I immediately went to the TV where I sat much of the rest of the day. However, it wasn’t until Thursday that he shared exactly what had happened to him.

Given it was a holiday in Boston; he had no school that day. A buddy and he decided to head over to the Finish Line. His friend wanted a coffee so they stopped first at a nearby Starbucks. My son doesn’t drink coffee. The barista messed up his friend’s order so they had to wait an extra few minutes for the re-do. Coffee in hand, they headed towards the finish line.

Friends that were there when the Boston Explosion happened

Nate, Matt, Alex, Arnie, and Daniel at site of Boston Bombings – all were close by when it happened!

Very soon, they encountered people coming back and exclaiming that there had been some sort of horrible explosion. The boys turned back. Had that barista gotten their coffee order right, there but for fortune, they might have been in the midst of it all. Serendipity? Luck? Who knows?

I immediately came up with a quote that defined my feelings of both relief and gratitude. Given that I’m a new golfer, I utilized a standard line from golf:

Golf is a game of inches…Life is a game of moments.

~~ There’s one phrase that makes me crazy and is somewhat ubiquitous in life and public discourse. It’s the use of the redundancy of Reason Why. You don’t need “why” or you don’t need “reason.” Try it out and help me change this annoying misuse of words!

Political comic

~~ Politics – you can’t live with them, you can’t live without them. Of course, you can choose to hide your head in the sand, but I have chosen to wade into the waters of political expression – publicly – with no more apologies. Every now and then, I write a political column. The one on Occupy Wall Street got more hits and comments than just about anything I’ve ever written.

But, I just added a political pundit to my radio show. I’ve gotten mixed feedback, with someone really upset that I strayed from my mostly parent-centric subject matteer. I don’t care. It’s my show and I’m going to take the shot. If you don’t try something new, you won’t grow and/or learn. What do you think? Go to the Radio Show tab and listen to the incredible Cherylyn LeBon and let me know?

Dog cartoon about Life not being fair

~~ Life isn’t fair and I’m glad. As a parent, we often confront our kids’ exclamation that life isn’t fair. Think about it. If life were really fair, wouldn’t it be horribly boring? If every time we did something bad, we immediately got punished, we’d never do anything bad. The converse is also true. But, just as my first item on this list of musings, isn’t the serendipity of life part of what makes it interesting?

Naturally, when something truly tragic happens to someone completely undeserving, I feel horrible and wish it hadn’t happened. But, truly if this were applied in life, where would we get meaning? There would really be no more free choice.

I think that’s enough for this column of random and unconnected

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  • http://twitter.com/jackdrsm Jack Durish

    What’s more important in parenting than imbuing your children with values? Unfortunately, many seem to have taken the same attitude towards values that they have towards technology: Newer is better. Sorry, values don’t wear out. They are bad unless they’re misapplied. However, parents seem embarrassed by their values and fail to defend them when challenged. As a result, we have generations making up their own without thinking them through. Sad…

    Well, life isn’t fair but we can be fair with one another, can’t we. No, fair doesn’t mean that you’re entitled to something that someone else earned and you didn’t. In all fairness, we all have the right to keep what we earned. Well, at least we did until the progressives decided that isn’t fair. See what I mean. New values that haven’t been thought through…

    How’s that for making politics into a parenting subject?

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      @twitter-189186958:disqus – ahhh, what I do at home with my boys is different than what I do publicly…but I fully agree that Values never really change! What a radical notion – keep what we earn? Gee, are you a right-winger or what? I completely agree – just so we’re clear, JD!

  • http://www.drmichellemazur.com/ Michelle_Mazur

    On my mind – I thought the flu season was over – yet I have it and that sucks. I might be delirious, but at least I’m getting caught up on commenting. You have a very good looking family, Bruce.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      Feel better @Michelle_Mazur:disqus – there’s nothing that makes appreciate our good health than not having it!

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  • David W.

    Oh, great, just what the world needs, another political commentator on the Internet.

    I never thought about the redundancy of the phrase “the reason why.” But yes, it IS redundant…the word “reason” is sufficient. Just don’t tell that to The Byrds.

    The phrase that makes ME crazy is “somewhat ubiquitous.” The word “ubiquitous” is similar to the words “unique” or “pregnant,” in that something (or someone) either it or is not that word. Something is one of a kind (unique) or it’s not; something is all over the place (ubiquitous) or it’s not. “Somewhat common” is better because there can be degrees of being common.

    • http://www.brucesallan.com Bruce Sallan

      I agree @disqus_dU5ulU60s7:disqus plus I simply LOVE the word, “ubiquitous!”