Just A Guy Wondering Can He Trust His Teens With Social Media

Sexting, texting, e-mail, Twitter, MySpace, NetFlix, Facebook, formspring (not a mattress company), “smart” phones, iPads, iPods, laptops, etc. That’s the world our kids live in.  And, it’s moving faster everyday! Can we trust our kids with social media?

For me, it was a library card, and a book, on a roller-skate, which my friends and I would use to go down the hill where we lived. Oh, we also played a made-up game we called “Mongoose,” in which we hit a ping pong ball back and forth with two books, the object being to do it as long as possible.  We had a phone, but its use was limited. TV was only on weekends.  And, there were just three networks and not much else.

That just ain’t the world no more!  With the recent spat of texting related violent incidents, I’m beginning to question what boundaries we parents should consider for our kids, especially our teens, with these social media devices.  My 16-year-old got into a mess of peer trouble with an impolitic facebook post.  It was stupid, but not that big a deal.  At my urging, he even publicly apologized (and in a well-written, not too self-deprecating fashion – I was impressed).

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Just A Guy, His Wife, and $Money$

Clichés are clichés because they’re usually true.  They say the biggest arguments couples have are over sex, the kids, and money.  True?  You bet.  At least in my house it’s restricted to just one of those – $money$.  Maybe I’ll just do future blogs about the other two subjects ‘cause you know I’m lying about money being the only issue we ever have.

But, this time, we did get in a heated argument over $money$.  I think that second marriages are more complicated on most levels as each partner does bring more history, more literal baggage, and potentially kids, to the marriage.  I brought the baggage of an ugly, angry, costly divorce in which my ex also abandoned my boys.  My present wife has often stated that she feels she’s paying for the sins of my ex.  And, to some degree, she is right. read more