Just A Guy Feeling Left Out

Category: Just A Guy

My son is almost 16 and he now has a girlfriend.  Evidently it’s “official” as both have declared they’re “in a relationship” on their Facebook pages.  Everyone in my family, my wife and younger son, says it’s none of my business.  I can’t help it; I’m feeling left out and curious.  Is this so wrong?  I also want to be sure he’s handling “things” appropriately.

He has gone from being the quintessential guy’s guy, only hanging out with his male buddies, to having a posse of female friends, one “special” one now, and his male friends seem to have bit the dust, except for his band-mates.

Some of his get-togethers, at our house, will be with 3 or 4 of these girls and JUST HIM!  Now, maybe I’m jealous, but this is a pretty big change.  I know my son is smart, talented, tall, confident, good-looking (I am his dad after all) so this is really no surprise.

I suppose it’s the sort of passage we want for our kids vs. watching them struggle for friends and a date to the prom.  It goes hand-in-hand with his emerging independence though he still does seem to tolerate me and I apparently don’t embarrass him too much, in front of his friends.

But I still want details!  My wife tells me in no uncertain terms to “Butt Out!”  I don’t care.  I’m dying.  What’s he doing?  Apparently, among his friends, girls and boys are having group sleepovers, which we are not allowing, with our without other kids and parents present.

I suppose it’s like all the rest of life that I’m still trying to figure out.  I’m just a guy; what do I know?