Just A Guy Talking About Women’s (Sex) Parts

Posted on October 15, 2009 by Bruce Sallan

My recent blog about women’s bleeding provoked a comment that inspired this blog. Another dirty little secret about men, but one that I’m sure is less a secret, is how lame, naïve, and uneducated we can be about how women’s sexual parts work. And, what WE have to do to take care of them.

When I began having sex, no woman took the time to tell me what I was doing right or wrong. As a fumbling teen, I groped around a bit, made out some (does anyone say “make out” anymore?), and went for it pretty much as soon as I could or was allowed.

I really believed my efforts were so incredible that there was no doubt my partner was lying back in heavenly bliss vs. the more likely reality of “Is that all there is?” But, talking about sex between men and women or more appropriately for that time, boys and girls, just was too darn awkward and we didn’t. The idea of actually expressing what we liked and didn’t like was impossible.

Just A Guy and Bleeding

Posted on October 10, 2009 by Bruce Sallan

I’m going to reveal yet another male dirty little secret to add to my blogs on “Looking” and “Farting.” We men don’t understand, feel comfortable around, or really “get” women and their bleeding. Of course we know what it’s about, but women talk to us about it like we would talk about having a runny nose. But it’s bleeding.

My wife just went through an emergency that related to this part of female plumbing. We ended up in the ER and I ended up doing the laundry. I held her hand, I listened, I was worried, and the two doctors even showed me pictures and tried to explain.